Divorce is a difficult experience for spouses to endure and, if you think you
are having a hard time coping with it, imagine what your children might
be going through. Even the most amicable divorce will present some hardships
for children and, regardless if they are exhibiting signs of an emotional
struggle or not, your children are likely having some difficulties with
processing this new information and the uncertainty attached to it. Of
course, given the fact that no two children are alike, they will understandably
cope differently with a divorce. Some might show more aggression and anger
than usual, while others might cry or appear to be more sensitive. However,
your child is reacting, if you are unsure whether or not to seek therapy
for your children, it is best to err on the side of caution and take them
to a therapist.
To further assist you in making this decision, here are some general hints
that your children might need or benefit from therapy:
Trusted friends, family members, or other individuals who are regularly
part of your child’s life have expressed concern
You often feel angry, exhausted, or disappointed with your child
Your child’s behavior or symptoms are interfering with the normal
functions of your family
Your child’s behavior or symptoms interfere with his or her usual functions
Your child asks to see a therapist (rare, but not impossible)
Here are some more specific symptoms that might suggest your children need therapy:
Lack of appetite or difficulty sleeping, neither of which are medical related
Excessive difficulties coping with the separation
A persistent sad and melancholic mood
Physical complaints that are not linked to a distinguishable cause
Loss of interest in friends or trouble getting along with peers
Deterioration in school performance
Inability to concentrate
Unrealistic fears and phobias
Excessive weight loss or gain that is unrelated to a medical condition
Many of these signs are on the more extreme side of the spectrum, but if
you recognize any of these in your children, you will want to consider
taking him or her to a therapist. Your divorce is never going to be a
pleasant memory for your children and it is okay to acknowledge that it
is a sad event, but it is important to ensure it does not become a turning
point in their lives towards negative and self-destructive behavior.
New York City Divorce Attorney
Deciding to end a marriage is not an easy thing, but it is sometimes necessary. At Eiges & Orgel, PLLC, we can provide the skilled and experienced legal services you will need
during this emotionally challenging time for your family. Our firm has
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Matt Hale, a shared parenting activist for the National Parents Organization, was instrumental in helping push through new shared parenting legislation in Kentucky by advocating for more than four years for the law at local Town Hall meetings. Hale discusses what he learned from the process and explains how other parents can get involved in the shared parenting movement.
Contact Matt Hale: firstname.lastname@example.org
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Dr. Deborah Hecker, a divorce and relationship counselor, explains why it is difficult to find an identity separate from your spouse after divorce and gives tips to help guys rediscover themselves in the wake of a breakup.
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Now that it’s summer and the kids are home, you might be thinking
of getting away for a family vacation. For many divorced couples, figuring
out a vacation custody agreement can be a difficult challenge. This is
especially true when both parents can’t agree on custody arrangements
for traveling out of country. Usually, a court order for vacations with
a minor child will often restrict the area of travel. Depending on your
individual child custody agreement, there are a few things to keep in
mind if your ex-spouse wants to take the kids on a vacation out of the country.
What You Can Do
Notify Each Other: The parent planning the trip must provide reasonable notification. This
is determined case by case but generally depends on the length and nature
of the vacation. It is also important to maintain communication with your
ex. Ensure there is a means of communication with the traveling parent
and child. Your ex should also give you an itinerary of the trip. This
is important information to have in case of an emergency.
Make a Document: Whatever you and your ex decide on regarding vacation custody arrangements,
get it in writing. Include as many details you want, but be sure the custodial
rights of each parent are clearly stated. Enforce your travel document.
If your ex breaches the terms of the document, you can sue. Enforcing
your travel arrangements also puts your ex on notice that their actions
might have legal repercussions.
Consider a Holiday/ Vacation Schedule: A schedule like this makes vacation planning easier for both parents.
With this arrangement, travel custody for winter and summer breaks will
be spelled out ahead of time. This can help you avoid an argument with
your ex when vacation time comes around.
Our New York Divorce Lawyers Can Help You
While these tips can help make custody arrangements easier for divorced
parents, tensions can still boil over. Some couples continue to face conflicts
well after their divorce proceedings have ended. A divorce lawyer can
help if you and your ex can’t come to terms on a vacation custody
agreement. Our New York divorce attorneys have handled thousands of divorce, child custody, and family law cases. We stand by our winning record and will stand by you too.
Luma Simms, Associate Fellow at The Philos Project, has researched the differences between two of the most prominent parenting styles: austere and harsh parenting. She discusses the differences between each style and gives tips for parenting seeking to discipline their children without being overly harsh.
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Cordell & Cordell attorney Alison Morriss discusses the importance of protecting your assets during divorce and gives tips to help ensure that you’re most important assets are accounted for and protected.
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